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Many entrepreneurs and solopreneurs suffer from overwhelming stress because of our fear of going to the doctor. This concern can have deadly consequences if our organs malfunction long enough to create chronic symptoms.

The root of our problem can be found in the many myths that we have come to accept as reality. These myths when challenged that not only save you money but make your dream of health and happiness come true. And I am about to reveal the myth that is most relevant to our concern.

Here’s the myth: Stress causes you to avoid having your annual physical

Wayne: Is that not just a time issue?

Cecil: It’s not a time issue.

If you had a business, at the end of the year, you would take stock.

If you had a crop, at the end of the year, you would have a harvest.

If you have a car, there are certain times you have maintenance checks.

If you have a house, there is a mortgage and insurance.

Everything comes up for renewal at a particular time. We do these things on a regular basis.

What happens to the annual physical?

The annual physical is something that is taken for granted because it’s about us.

We don’t want to deal with ourselves.

In my 14 years of private practice, I have found that we put ourselves in the background.

We only pay attention when there are health issues or consequences for lack of looking after ourselves.

I asked an interesting question the other day. I asked someone, “Do you have a heart?” and they said, “Yes.” I asked, “Which side is it on?” and they had no clue!

That’s the problem. We take our bodies for granted.

We have issues with looking after the body and think it will always be the way it is.

It hurts my heart to see good intention entrepreneurs suffer from overwhelming stress rather than have an annual physical. So I hope you will take the priceless information you discovered in the last few minutes to avoid this trap. And to realize the health and happiness is very important to our well being. It is possible and only a few short steps away.

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Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Sometimes as entrepreneurs and solopreneurs you need a rude awakening for you to discover your point of focus. If you miss the details about affects of stress on my health and my sales career get more details by going to 8 Things I Wish I Knew about the Affects Of Stress Before I Started My Sale Career.

There are several little known resources that not only can save you time and make you money but make you dream come true. And I am going to reveal 10 things you don’t about your point of focus that could save your life.

Tip #3:

I was attempting to do too many things and was all over the place.

Tip #4:

In a partnership, we need to understand adjustments have got to be made.

Tip #5:

When I admitted that there was a health issue, I decided, “Fine, if there is a health issue, how I solve the health issue?”
You solve the health issue by being focused.

Tip #6:

I ate properly and stayed 9 to 3.

I was very effective and efficient to do something else.

Tip #7:

People say, “How can you be so busy and get work done?” You can get work done if you’re focused. When you’re focused, it’s amazing how much you can accomplish.

Tip #8:

As a consequence of being aware that there was a discomfort and pain in my chest, that made me more aware of my health and helped me to understand, “This is your health. You need to look after yourself.”

Tip #9:

I was very involved in the community looking after everybody else except myself. This was a message to me saying, “Uh, uh. It’s time for you to stop.”

Tip #10:

When I stopped to pay attention to that, that’s when my whole gift of relaxation and meditation was able to come true. I realized I had a gift and wasn’t using it.

The chest pain for me was very profound because it triggered a ripple effect in regard to health that has allowed me to be where I am today and to teach what I do today.

One of the biggest obstacles that prevent entrepreneurs and solopreneurs from having a point of focus is that we are too busy chasing the latest FAD. Consequently, we are easily distracted and lose our sense of purpose.

I hope I have helped to change your thinking. When you realize how simple and easy it is to improve your relationship on a daily basis, you will look forward with excitement to search and find more opportunities to have fun each day.

We appreciate your feedback.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my many years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs they are so busy that they do not even recognize the affect of stress on their dream.

The myth is: Stress causes you to be in the hospital with chest pains.

Wayne: That is stress, isn’t it? How can that be a myth, Cecil?

Cecil: I can use myself as a personal example. I had my physical yesterday. I have a doctor I’ve known now for over 35 years.

I went to his office with a pain in my chest. I remember this very vividly. He actually personally took me out of his office, downstairs to his car and to the emergency room.

When I got to emergency room, I said, “What am I doing here?” That’s when I discovered I had some issues. The myth here is not about stress causing you to be in the hospital with chest pains.

Tip #1:

I was working for a major corporation which was very stressful. I wasn’t making the adjustment very well.

Tip #2:

The whole problem was that I wasn’t taking care of myself.

Tip #3:

I was very busy working at their schedule.

Tip #4:

Yes, it was a very stressful situation but I never took control.

Tip #5:

I never was focused enough to solve the problem.

When I got to the hospital, I realized, “I have to have a different look at my life.”

Tip #6:

When I looked at my life, I discovered I wasn’t focused enough.

I was taking too many breaks.

I was goofing off. I decided, “I have to solve this problem.”

Tip #7:

I decided to work from 9 to 3. It was a very high-paying job and very stressful but I was working all weekends and nights. I thought, “This is ridiculous.”

I decided I would work from 9 to 3 but it would be tight, meaning my breaks would be very tight and whenever I finished a sale I would write up the sale then and there.

I would do everything tight, and at three o’clock, I would be finished.

Tip #8:

Whatever got done between 9 and 3 would get done and there would be no more working on weekends, nothing.

It was the most productive year I ever had. All of a sudden, I didn’t blink. I just said, “This is what I want to do.” This was a message to me to smarten up.

I was amazed at how much I accomplished and how sharp, effective and productive I was.

Simply follow the steps above and you will avoid the affects of stress in your sales career. Now, I challenge you to do something about your problem by finding a piece of paper and getting busy following the strategy I outlined above.

We eagerly look forward to hearing your stories of success and even enjoying life’s challenges by means of these new approaches. Peace.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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The success of entrepreneurs and solopreneurs to improve your relationship depends on the ability to make the necessary adjustments.

I’ve made that adjustment. The whole thing is you’re supposed to support your partner. That’s how I do it.

I support her by being with her and spending time with her. This means every two weeks I’m on a different time schedule but it allows our relationship to grow.

She knows it doesn’t matter what shift she’s on, I’ll spend some time with her.

In a partnership, we need to understand adjustments have got to be made. You partner might get a promotion or travel a lot. It’s just the nature of the business. You need to make the adjustments.

You can’t say, “This is the way it was before we met and it’s supposed to continue this way.” Life changes so quickly that we don’t have a say in the matter. The secret is how you make the adjustments to whatever is presented to you.

What we teach in our process is you need to be able to make the adjustment no matter what is presented to you. Make the adjustment, refocus, and relax anywhere anytime, in spite of what’s happening around you.

That’s the key. It’s the only way you can go because you have no say in how things are going to work out. If you have the tools to make the adjustments then it’s irrelevant what happens, you don’t really care.

Now that you understand the secret principle on how to improve your relationship, you can consider accepting your partner unconditionally because you are getting something in return.

What is so exciting about these new perspectives, is that they can accelerate the journey on your road of relationship success, or revive a flagging effort you may have abandoned, and inject you with new hope and energy.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In all my years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs many of their challenges are about how to better your relationships.

Wayne: Is that all because of stress?

Cecil: Yes and no.

The issue is that you know what kind of work your partner is doing. For example, my wife is a nurse and works 7:00 to 3:00.

She’s supposed to finish work at 3:00. If someone is admitted to the floor around 2:45, my wife could be there another hour and a half.

Tip #1:

If I go pick her up after work and she tells me she has to work another hour and a half, there’s nothing I can get upset about.

That’s just the nature of her work. You need to understand that’s just the way it is.

Some of us understand this. There’s no point in getting angry with the person.

Wayne: I would think you are very unique there. Most people who have to wait for their spouse for an hour and a half would be going crazy.

Cecil: Initially, I wondered about it but what I discovered is that is the nature of her business. To put it in context, I work from home.

My clients know I go pick up my wife at 3:00 so there are no appointments then. The whole thing is about understanding the nature of the business.

Wayne: So you readjusted your schedule.

Tip #2:

Cecil: I have to make the adjustment in my life and say, “Here’s what it is.” Another example, my wife also works 3:00 to 11:00. I need to make an adjustment and I choose to make this adjustment. When she comes home at 12:30 at night, I can spend some time with her.

This means every two weeks I’m on a different vibration. We teach in our relaxation programs that you can’t decide how you want to live your life. You’ve got to take the situations and make adjustments to them. When my wife comes home late at night, instead of her being up alone and I’m sleeping, I spend one or two hours with her.

One of the biggest obstacles that prevent entrepreneurs and solopreneurs from learning how to better your relationship with your partner is the ability to adjust to circumstances and go with the flow.

I hope I have helped to change your thinking. When you realize how simple and easy it is to improve your relationship on a daily basis, you will look forward with excitement to search and find more opportunities to have fun each day.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my over 14 years of facilitating solopreneurs and entrepreneurs their main goal is to be independently wealthy. Most people are successful in business but when it comes to their relationship it’s a totally different story.

We are agreeing that we need money for the basic necessities of living. So Money is good. The problem is we get so attached to money. We don’t want to talk about it.

Money is something that needs to circulate and needs to flow. If you hold on to it too tightly and get too attached to it, you will create a problem.

It is not that your partner and money stress you out. The whole myth here is that you do not have communication.

There are all kinds of beliefs about money and sharing, and what’s mine and what’s yours.

If you really understand what a relationship and commitment mean, it doesn’t matter who has what.

That is nobody’s business.

It doesn’t matter where it gets paid from as long as it is paid. That is the way it’s supposed to be. But because of our beliefs and ego, we want to have one up on our partner.

That creates problems.

You shouldn’t do this, but it happens.

Wayne: When we say that your partner and money stress you out, that is actually just blaming, isn’t it?

Cecil: Yes.

We need somebody to pick on and say, “This is somebody’s fault.” The reality is that in a relationship, you need to take responsibility as a couple and make sure that everything is taken care of.

Everybody has issues. Whatever issues you have internally is a whole different story. It has nothing to do with paying the bills and it has nothing to do with your partner. We blame them because of a lack of understanding. I call it ignorance.

No matter how long you have been in a relationship, chances are you are ignoring the fact that you need help to relieve stress. The good news: So pick the solution you need to pay attention to, from the ones I outlined above to solve your problem and guarantee your dream of a healthy, wealthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving  your dream of health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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The whole myth is that nobody is listening.

What I mean by that is we have two tape recorders.

Let’s assume it’s you and your partner. Both tape recorders are speaking, but nobody’s listening.

What’s the reason for that?

The challenge we have in communication is that we are very seldom listened to. Everybody is talking, talking, talking, but nobody is listening.

When people come to see me in my private practice, what happens is everybody is talking but nobody takes the time to listen. You have two tape recorders.

Think of a conversation you had with whomever and when you last had it. You find that as soon as you start a conversation and ask a question, the person starts talking to you and then you seem to be cut off.

People cut you off to tell you something about themselves.

People have a desire to be heard, but nobody is listening to anybody.

It becomes very frustrating, especially in relationships when you’ve gone to work, you come home to your partner and nobody is talking to each other.

“What happened today at work?” You start talking and your partner says, “Well, this is what happened.”

We have been taught what’s called “communication.”

What has baffled me for 14 years in my private practice is people come to me and say, “Cecil, we’ve done communication.”

What about listening?

I thought communication was all about listening.

People seem to think they understand communication, but very few people have been taught how to listen. It keeps folks from having a relationship.

That, in my opinion, is one of the biggest reasons for issues in relationships. Nobody is listening to anybody because everybody wants to say something.

We’re too busy to actually stop and say, “What is this person saying?” We don’t take time to acknowledge this person, listen to them and give them feedback.

Everything is happening so fast and everybody is so busy that nobody can take a break to actually listen to what somebody has to say.

The interesting thing about starting any relationship is the marvellous energy and exuberance you have. The challenge is, without a proper stress management technique for listening you can waste this valuable resource leaving you feeling frustrated and overwhelmed with nothing to show for your effort.

Be sure to follow the crucial beginner’s listening tips that I have outlined. Through these points, you could be at speed up the rate at which you attain your better communication. And this would definitely amaze you!

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving your dream of health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my many years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs they all desire to make lots of money and have an abundance of energy so that they enjoy a vibrant productive life.

The whole thing about eating the wrong foods is not about eating the wrong foods. It’s the consequences of eating the wrong foods. You get involved in that, then have all kinds of health issues. Then you have to deal with the health issues.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals. That can often balance things out, depending on to what degree you have been into this bad habit of missing meals.

Wayne: Cecil, if you eat the right meals, is that going to help with your stress level?

Cecil: If you eat properly and have three meals, it helps a lot. The body needs fuel. You can’t drive a car without putting gas in it. It’s the same thing with you as a person. In order to function, you need to have something in your system.

For example, I always suggest that people have some fruit in the morning. Have your breakfast. Have your lunch. Have your dinner.

One day, I was teaching meditation. I noticed that in the class, they were hungry. They had skipped a meal. I had to go find food for them to eat before I taught. Nobody would listen to me.

What happens if children go to school hungry? If you don’t feed the children, they can’t function. Their brain can’t function if there is no food.

I was in this class to teach. I realized they were hungry. I sense it through the energy. I said, “Look. Get something to eat. Go buy something.” Then I had a very receptive class. Nobody was listening to me when they were hungry.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals.

One of the things I have found is that if people aren’t eating properly, their attention span is very short. You learn to spot it and make sure that the people get something to eat. When they get something to eat, it’s much easier for you to facilitate them and teach them.

What is so informative about these thoughts is, it can initiate a spark back to the way of achieving greater success, or speed up a tired effort you may have deserted, and inject it with new desire and vitality.

We appreciate you feedback. Comment below and tell what you think. Peace.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In all my years I have helped entrepreneurs and solopreneurs find what is your gift in life? I have seen it all. Every “secret”. Every trick. Every new idea which is really a spin on what has been around for years.

When you discover your gift or passion you will stop spinning your wheels buying each flavour of the month and start focusing on what is your gift and start having fun again.

We don’t have to do these things, but because we don’t know what we want for ourselves and we’re not happy with ourselves, we think we’re supposed to be like somebody else.

Who that somebody else is, I don’t really know.

Imagine for a moment what your life would be like when you are serving your customers and they keep coming back for more because of your unique services.

We seem to get so caught up in the, “I want to be like Harry or Jane.”

I say, “How about you?”

I believe, personally, that we have been put here on this earth with phenomenal gifts.

Each of our gifts is unique.

This would be a much better place if we shared that gift with the world.

However, I lost myself because of my desire to make a lot of money.

I suffered from excruciating back pain and was divorced and bankrupt.

You see I did not know how to listen to the subtle message that the universe was suggesting to me.

When I woke up and realized I was in denial and sought the appropriate help my life turned around and I discovered my passion.

As a result I am no longer in pain and focused on ONLY making money. I can stop and smell the roses.

My gift is to teach Empty Your Cup® relaxation, meditation and heal your chronic symptoms. That’s my gift. Fortunately for me, I know what it is.

The other important lesson for me was that I did not know how to ask for help because to me to satisfy others rather than myself seem so easy. I was also too hard on myself which created all kinds of health problems.

If we would take the time to accept ourselves, we would learn more about ourselves and become more confident with whatever we have. Whatever we have, we ought to share with the world and make the world a better place.

Now you may agree with me that it would great to share what is your gift, but as creatures of habit we tend to easily slip back into old patterns of behaviour. Just remember that if you always live in the past then there is no future.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. Get a jump start on your own relax and stress less system with 21 no-brainer shortcut to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com  You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my many years of facilitating entrepreneurs and solopreneurs who would like to have lots of energy and enjoy work life balance they seem to skip over a very important step which threatens their health.

Wayne: Stress causes you to eat the wrong foods. Why is that a myth?

Cecil: It’s a myth because most people I’ve talked to seem to skip a meal. This is from my personal experience. The meal they seem to skip is breakfast.

What happens when they skip breakfast is they somehow want to catch up at lunch. When they come home for dinner, because they missed breakfast, they want to have breakfast and then have dinner.

That’s the pattern I’ve noticed. They skip a meal, but still need to get that meal in somewhere along the line. They come home and have breakfast at suppertime. After suppertime breakfast, they tend to want to have supper.

When you miss a meal, what I find is that you eat whatever is there to fill that void.

Our system needs to refuel and be nourished. If the system isn’t nourished, it’s going to scream at you. When it screams at you, you have to put something in there because you didn’t have a plan, didn’t have directions and haven’t decided what you want.

You are going to have to put something into your system. The first thing that’s available, you’re going to put in, whether you like it or not.

“Stress causes me to eat the wrong food,” is not the myth. The myth is, “We are not eating properly.” Then we get hungry wherever we are.

It hurts my heart to see hard working entrepreneurs and solopreneurs lose their drive and passion because they ignore this healthy eating habit. So I hope you will take the priceless short cuts you discovered in the last few minutes to avoid this misfortune.

I hope you realize that a healthy eating habit is a basic key to your success. It is possible and only a few short steps away.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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