Stress Relief Blog

Mary was still clinging to what she thought her fiancé owed her. If you claim you are finished with a situation you need to let it go. You may not want to let go because you have been accustomed to putting conditions on people and situations. (I will only do this for you if you do this for me.)

Letting go unconditionally

However you need to let go unconditionally. What this means is that you give what you give without any strings attached. You see, in relationships this is easier said than done. When you end a relationship your emotions are usually out of whack because you are angry.

When I got divorce I was angry for many reasons. I was happy the relationship ended but I was still angry. I was angry at myself for spending so many years satisfying my family and neglecting myself. So my challenge was that I had put too many conditions on myself.

I was not unconditional with myself. Only through therapy and having a private practice have I understood what it feels like to be unconditional.

So what is the moral of the story?

Letting go takes time and patience. Letting go unconditionally allows you to open up your heart so that you can forgive and accept past circumstances and behaviors as life lessons.

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Yes you can quickly lose focus and avoid the state of the experience of stress relief.

Let me explain.

Joan was enjoying a marvelous day of being in the moment by herself. The phone rang, Joan answered the phone, and it was her friend Sue. Joan quickly discovers that Sue was all stressed out. Joan instantly became stress out as well.

Wait there is more.

Joan believes that she should focus on solving other people’s problems. So on the phone she immediately took over shifting from her state of incredible stress relief to a state of depression (quickly trying to solve a problem she knows nothing about) in order to solve Sue’s problem.

As working moms or stay at home moms you are responsible for your actions.Your actions can create the havoc of stress or the serenity of peace and tranquility.

It is not your responsibility

You need to understand that people create stress through their actions and it is not your responsibility to rescue them.

Consequence of staying focused

Allowing your friends or love ones to make mistakes helps them to learn their life lessons. If however you constantly smoother your friends and love ones by providing solutions to all of their problems then it is like putting a candle snuffer over a lit candle.

Guilty of stopping growth and avoiding stress relief

You are unknowingly depriving you friends and love ones of the joys of living, putting out their light of growth, stress relief and life lessons. Life lessons which are needed to become the backbone for their spiritual growth.

So what is the moral of the story?

Staying focused allows you to maintain your b>balance and avoid the trap of preventing your friends and love ones from making mistakes and learning their life lessons.

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Mary craved other people’s opinion to make her feel good and experience stress relief. She went to the hair dresser and got her hair done in an amazing style. She really felt she could relax and focus after leaving the hairdresser. However if no one noticed her hair style or paid her a compliment she would go into a depressed state because  she felt no one cared to noticed. This behavior made Mary gain weight. She actually started binging on chocolate and putting on weight.
I introduce Mary to a meditation which allowed her to see herself stunningly attractive having lost weight.