Stress Relief and better Relationships

Stress Relief and better Relationships can be achieved by staying focused on your outcome. Mary was looking for stress relief but had lost sight of her outcome. Mary wanted to have a better relationship with her partner but kept on focusing on the little upsets in the relationship.

Let me explain.

Mary was in a relationship for many years and now she became irritated by the simple things her partner did, like leaving the toilet seat up after use and putting the toilet paper roll on the “wrong way”. Mary was becoming more and more frustrated.

What Mary did not realize was that her partner had always done these things (leaving the toilet seat up after use and putting the toilet paper roll on the “wrong way”.) from the time they met. So her partner wondered what was causing her to get her knickers in a knot. Check out this resource to help you to stay focus.

Mary came to see me, explaining how inconsiderate her partner had become and asking for my help. I asked Mary what had attracted her to her partner? She told me he was fun, considerate, kind and supportive in the things she was interesting in doing.

Remember, Mary had indicated that her partner was inconsiderate and this was one of the qualities she admired about her partner. So what changed? With a little facilitation on my part, Mary realized that she had lost her focus.

Initially when she met her partner she saw him as a “whole” person and respected that “whole” person. Now that Mary had lost focus she was looking for every “hole” in her partner’s character to attack.

Through the acknowledgment of her behavior, Mary discovered that she also had “holes” or imperfections, which if taken apart from her “whole” person could be very irritating.

So what is the moral of the story?

An effective outcome requires that you focus on the great qualities of that person. When you focus on the negatives you will always be aware of the person’s “holes” inadequacies. However, these inadequacies or weaknesses are sometimes more than compensated for in the positives or the awesome qualities of the “whole” person.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can
reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

Learn how to focus for success so that you can relax anywhere, anytime, and find more time to enjoy stress relief. – Split Second Stress relief

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Stress relief and weight loss comes from helping others

Do you think that stress relief and weight loss comes from helping others?

Let me explain.

Mary had been pulling out her hair in her fight with stress relief and weight loss for many years. Mary’s challenge relating to weight loss was that she had enrolled in many weigh loss programs but always gave up in frustration. Her frustration had reached a boiling point and she asked for my help.

Mary love helping other people and she experienced profound stress relief from the satisfaction she derived from seeing other people get what they wanted base in part on her advice. So Mary was always looking for people to help. Helping people made her day.

Helping people to Mary was amazingly effortless, like taking candy from a baby. The flip side to the story was that Mary thought that by helping others she had a right to demand that they in turn help her when she needed help. You guess it no one paid Mary any attention.

After many disappointments, arguments and raising her blood pressure, Mary decided that there had to be another solution because she felt abandoned and did not cope well when she needed help and no one pitched in to help her out.

In working with Mary, she realized that losing weight to her was “hard work.” After her perception of “hard work” was shifted through my facilitation, she now admits that she had made her life extremely difficult and stressful by having fun helping people and forsaken herself (seeing doing things for herself as hard work).

So what is the moral of the story?

Sometimes consciously or unconsciously you can set an outcome to help others (by giving advice) and you may experience great joy from this experience. However, you may not for many reasons have an outcome in life for yourself either in a specific aspect of your life or in your entire life because you never thought it necessary.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach.
You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Can you get stress relief from communication?

Can you get stress relief from communication? No you cannot because this is a myth.

Here is a quotation that explains this myth.

“The key to any loving unconditional relationship is listening but generally we have been taught to communicate and very little time is spent on learning how to listen. It is like two tape recorders talking to each other”

Cecil McIntosh.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Can you easily quiet your mind and try to relax?

Can you easily quiet your mind and try to relax? Oh yes you can.

Let me explain:

I was on a radio show the other day. The discussion centered on the ability to relax in your daily hectic schedule. The radio host indicated that he tries to “still his mind” but before he knows it his mind wanders. So he has been trying for awhile to quiet the mind.

He knows he needs to stop, take a break and relax, that’s why he keeps on trying. But he is not making any progress. So he ends up in this endless loop where stress relief does not exist.

His frustration is so stressful that he stopped trying to find time to take a break. Sooner or later he will find time to take a break or the health consequences of not taking a break will force him to stop and slow down. Whatever mindset got the radio host to where he is today is no longer working.

Yes you guess it he needs to change his mindset about relaxation and enjoying stress relief.

The radio host has two challenges about relaxation:

His first challenge about relaxation

The first challenge is that he is attempting to bite off more than he can chew. What that means is that the ability to quite the mind is a very difficult undertaking without a competent facilitator. He can keep on trying to quiet the mind and continue to fall flat on his face or get a meditation coach and cut down the learning curve.

The radio host needs to first learn how to relax anywhere anytime. Then it would be much easier to cross over the bridge to meditation and learn how to quite the mind.

His second challenge about relaxation

He needs to incorporate ways of relaxing during his busy daily schedule for himself. These activities need to be like appointments for him. These relaxation breaks need to be simple enough so that he can always take them without creating more stress.

1. Take a 15 minute walk at lunch each day.

2. Sit on a park bench for 10 minutes and listen to the sounds of nature.

3. After work each day go for a 30 minute walk in the park.

4. Play a game of squash or racket ball during lunch or after work

So what is the moral of the story?

If you are trying to relax and quiet the mind and you discover you are still getting the same stressful results, it time to change. So you can continue to struggle and suffer the painful health consequences or seek help from a competent professional and enjoy stress relief.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Stress Relief Strategies for stress Management

Stress relief Strategies for stress Management can be very simple if you do not complicate the matter.

Let me explain

I voluntarily teach relaxation, at a hospital, right at the bedside of (heart, stroke and cancer) patients. During my weekly visit to the hospital some of the relatives of the sick thought that stress relief is no longer necessary.

The relatives explained that since they have the house, the mortgage, the cat, the dog and all these material things that they have forgotten all about relaxation and its benefits.

We tend to forsake the little things in life for progress (material gain). Progress with stress relief is based on incorporating change with the simple things in life. It is like a clouded crystal ball. You need to clean up the cloud in the ball before you can use it.

So what is the moral of the story?

Stress relief comes from relaxation. Relaxation (if practiced regularly) allows you to enjoy a good night sleep, eat proper meals and have the time and energy to enjoy a healthy lifestyle.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Healer and Guide Announces Launch of Stress Reduction Podcasts

(Mississauga, Canada) Cecil McIntosh has been called a teacher, a guide, a healer, facilitator and, at times, he’s been called a nut. But one thing is certain. Cecil’s dedicated followers swear by his techniques for managing stress, improving focus and finding serenity in life.

With a busy practice, working one-on-one with his clients, Cecil fills his days providing solutions using his client-centered therapies that have been developed from the ancient wisdom of the Far East melded with the latest in behavior modification therapies including neuro-linquistic programming(NLP), hypnosis, exercises and focus techniques that relieve stress, anxiety and even physical pain.

Cecil also works in local hospitals with terminally ill patients – an experience that has helped hundreds through their most difficult time. “This work has given me an empathy with those in need,” Cecil said in a recent media conference call. ” I’m able to feel what my clients feel and treat them from this “inside perspective.” Some who know Cecil call it a gift. None disagree.

Recently, Cecil announced that he would begin podcasting from:

http://splitsecondradio.com beginning July 5, 2007. Unlike other podcasts, Cecil talks one-on-one with patients who can call in their questions at 1-866-441-0783 or email questions to support@emptyyourcup.com

If you’re coping with stress – work stress, marital stress, pressures of daily life – you’re putting your physical and emotional health at risk. This September, Cecil will be holding one of his famous Relaxation Retreats at the beautiful Almond Beach Resort in Barbados. To learn more, visit Cecil’s web site at www.emptyyourcup.com/barbadosretreat

Cecil McIntosh is a remarkable guide and a remarkable man. Listen to his weekly podcasts from www.splitsecondstressrelief.com, and to discover the potential within you, learn more about Cecil’s Relaxation Retreat at http://www.emptyyourcup.com/barbadosretreat/ this September.

It’s the beginning of a journey to better health and a longer, happier life.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can
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Manicure and pedicure gets you stress relief

Manicure and pedicure gets you stress relief. What’s your opinion?

Let me explain

My wife took me to get stress relief from a manicure and pedicure on this beautiful summer’s day. I always look forward to these visits with anticipation of what I will learn about stress relief. Observing people in the spa or salon is always an amazing experience for me.

The first thing I noticed is that two ladies paid for their services before they had the manicure. After probing a little bit I discovered that these ladies did not want to get their nails smudge after the manicure. I also discovered that they were small fans available to dry your nails.

However, some clients were in a hurry so they could not wait a few moments for their nails to dry. Some clients rush to prepay because they could not wait for their nails to dry naturally. So the question is when do you relax when you go to have a pedicure and a manicure?

It would appear that you relax when you are physically held by the hand for a manicure and the feet for a pedicure. It is that tiny moment that you relax and enjoy stress relief. O what a wonderful moment.

The other question is what is your purpose for having a manicure and pedicure? Is it to attend a special function? Is it to go away on holiday?

Maybe it is just for the chance to pamper your self. So are you getting a manicure and pedicure for yourself or to be noticed by others? Then when you are finished there is the stress of navigating opening the door with wet nails.

There is another challenge if you choose to stay and allow your nails to dry. How do you handle all those thought that are rushing thought your head? These thoughts are about all the things that need to be done while you are wasting precious time sitting in a chair drying your nails.

So what is the moral of the story?

There are many myths about relaxation. The biggest myth is that we need to allow other people to help us relax. This myth has some value because we are generally too busy to stop and get the tools which allow us to take a break by ourselves and be able to relax anywhere, anytime.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Can you relax and take a break by default?

Yes you can relax and take a break by default.

Let me explain:

Mary one of my clients was having difficulty scheduling time to relax and take a break. Sometimes she was very successful and other times it was a total disaster to find time to relax. Mary very seldom listens to and followed my instructions.

It was Mary’s way or the highway. Mary would come home each evening from work to a busy home routine. She wanted the radio on. The television had to be on.

She would play with her grandson. Then she would watch her favorite Soap opera program. After the program is finished she would either make or have dinner.

Then one evening Mary came home and for some reason her grandson was not at home. She had no desire to listen to the radio or watch television. Mary reported that she had a shower and quickly fell asleep across the bed.

So I was curious to find out what lesson Mary learned from this experience. Mary revealed that her body always needed to take a break and rest for a short while in the evening. However, this was the first time that she experienced the reality.

You see, Mary actually noticed that she needed to take a break after coming home from work. (Sometimes we know intellectually without an experience) Mary’s other insight was that she thought it was impossible to take a break after coming home to a busy house from a hectic job.

So what is the moral of the story?

Sometimes the light bulb for stress relief and relaxation come on by default.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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