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Listen up: Mother’s day is a time for mom to relax. I consider Mother’s Day a day of opportunity – the opportunity to rebuild, re-connect, reflect and to strengthen family bonds.Know this: Every day is Mother’s Day. But, this special day offers the opportunity for families to come together to honor mom and all she’s done for us.

Mother’s Day: Is it the Opportunity to Honor?

I can’t imagine how mothers do it. How do they keep the family together, solve our problems, apply band-aids to skinned knees and work full time to help support her loved ones? There are people who claim that “women can’t have it all” – a family and a career. But we see these heroes everyday. We work beside them. We eat at the same table with them. We see them struggle and strive. And we see them succeed.Mothers are remarkable people, filled with love and empathy, endless forgiveness and unconditional love. We honor that essential member of our lives on Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day: Is it the Opportunity to Appreciate?

We most often take for granted those things in our lives that are ever-present. A high standard of living (by any standards), the air we breathe and, of course, the important role mothers play in raising children and instilling in their offspring positive values.

Women are more compassionate, more empathetic, yes, more maternal. I wonder what our world would be like if women ran all the governments. I’m certain we’d never have another war.

Appreciate all that mothers do for their families, for their communities and for the comfort they provide in times of stress and distress. Mother’s Day is the one day a year when mothers should relax, sit back and take stock of their lives.

As a man, as a son, as a husband, father and grandfather, I see, first hand, the importance mothers play in the advancement of a more civilized society. If it were left up to men, our species would have died out centuries ago.

Mothers Day: Is it the Opportunity to Strengthen Family Ties?

The human needs to belong and to love and be loved form the basis of strong family ties. Our families are special groups to which only certain people belong. Yet, family members often fuss and feud.

I’ve seen instances of families that have been torn apart by a simple misunderstanding and the complex emotion of pride – too much of it.

How can you help mom solve family problems?

Believe it or not, family rifts rarely heal on their own.

If there are differences and disagreements in your family, if these differences are long-standing or recent, the best gift you can give a mother is to make an effort to make things right by strengthening family ties.

Now listen to this carefully: Especially if the disagreement involves mom.

Want to make you mom happy this year?

Want to make your mother happy this year? Hug her. Thank her. And, if necessary, apologize to her to set things right. The family is our most important support group, and at the center of every family is a mom.

Mother’s Day: Is it the Opportunity to Remember?

For those of us who have lost our mothers, this day is a time to reflect. You see…you can open the family scrapbook and remember the good times.

And guess what? Tell happy stories and share memories of mom with others in your family. Tell your children and their children about your mother.

Keep the memory alive by sharing with younger family members your fond memories of mother.

As long as mother’s memory remains, she and the impact she had on others, remains. This is the day to share the best of family times.

Mothers Day: Is it the Opportunity to Give Back?

While it’s important to share your love with family members daily, on this special day – this Mother’s Day – it’s time to give back. Try some of these displays of affection for the person who gave you life.

” Clean the house – top to bottom. And do a good job – the kind of job mom would do.

” Run the errands. Today’s a day for mom to relax so let someone else do the around-town chores. Give mom a break.

” Go out to dinner, or better yet, make dinner. Get the entire family involved. Make mom’s favorite dishes. And don’t forget to clean up and do the dishes. This is Mother’s Day, after all.

” Gifts like flowers and chocolates are always appreciated. But, gifts aren’t the only way of giving. Fix the back door like you’ve been promising to do. Mow the lawn without being asked a dozen times.

” Sweep the mother of your children off her feet and tell her how much you love her. Mothers never get tired of hearing it. You should never get tired of showing it.

Finally, use Mother’s Day as a starting point – the day things will be different. The day things will change for the better. Make a promise to yourself. Mother’s Day is the first day of a new, better, happier and healthy relationship with mothers, wives, daughters and friends.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping  Entrepreneurs like you, transform stress into success. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and life Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Manicure and pedicure gets you stress relief. What’s your opinion?

Let me explain

My wife took me to get stress relief from a manicure and pedicure on this beautiful summer’s day. I always look forward to these visits with anticipation of what I will learn about stress relief. Observing people in the spa or salon is always an amazing experience for me.

The first thing I noticed is that two ladies paid for their services before they had the manicure. After probing a little bit I discovered that these ladies did not want to get their nails smudge after the manicure. I also discovered that they were small fans available to dry your nails.

However, some clients were in a hurry so they could not wait a few moments for their nails to dry. Some clients rush to prepay because they could not wait for their nails to dry naturally. So the question is when do you relax when you go to have a pedicure and a manicure?

It would appear that you relax when you are physically held by the hand for a manicure and the feet for a pedicure. It is that tiny moment that you relax and enjoy stress relief. O what a wonderful moment.

The other question is what is your purpose for having a manicure and pedicure? Is it to attend a special function? Is it to go away on holiday?

Maybe it is just for the chance to pamper your self. So are you getting a manicure and pedicure for yourself or to be noticed by others? Then when you are finished there is the stress of navigating opening the door with wet nails.

There is another challenge if you choose to stay and allow your nails to dry. How do you handle all those thought that are rushing thought your head? These thoughts are about all the things that need to be done while you are wasting precious time sitting in a chair drying your nails.

So what is the moral of the story?

There are many myths about relaxation. The biggest myth is that we need to allow other people to help us relax. This myth has some value because we are generally too busy to stop and get the tools which allow us to take a break by ourselves and be able to relax anywhere, anytime.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Baby boomers and moms can enjoy stress relief by being perfect in an imperfect world.

Let me explain

I experienced profound stress relief on Thursday Jan12, 2006, when I gave my first teleseminar. The topic was “Get answers to your 12 most important questions about overwhelm.” When you are presenting a new project there are a lot of things that can go wrong.

For example I thought I understood how to use the different codes on the phone for conducting the teleseminar. When the call began it was like walking and chewing gum at the same time. While I was doing my presentation (walking), I very quickly discovered that I did not know or was not familiar with how to mute out the noises and how to open and close the line (chewing gum).

This experience is very important because sometimes you may feel that you are not ready to handle a new situation. This awareness should also remind you that you are not perfect if you were ever considering such thoughts.

In my case I did the best I could under the circumstances, knowing that this was only the beginning of my experience with presenting teleseminars. Stress relief for me was experiencing a new beginning. Interestingly enough I got emails after the call congratulating me on the call.

Here is one comment, “Just want to let you know that I really enjoyed your teleseminar last night. Sorry if I was noisy; I was calling from a supermarket at that time, but I’m really glad I did. You were really great and I would call in again. I was taking notes and I really felt like I learned a lot. It’s a great tool!” R .P.

So what is the moral of the story?

It is difficult to grow by standing still. You need to move out of your comfort zone and use the feedback from what you did right or wrong to help you grow and expand.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Overworked, Stressed-Out Moms: Help Is Finally Here. Stressful situations will always exist. Most moms experience a time during the day when they are most stressed and almost overwhelmed by the activities going on around them. Some may feel this way in the morning.

Others experience these feelings in the afternoon or evening. These feelings occur when mothers are over-exposed to the stimuli of children, family, work and other potential stressors in their lives.

Let me explain:

Each woman’s body chemistry is different. What may cause one woman to feel stressed or overwhelmed may not affect her neighbor or best friend in the same way? Stress can occur at specific times during the day for some people, almost to the point that it can be predicted.

Getting the kids ready for school or rushing home in between errands to cook supper are two common stress points during a mother’s day. For some moms, these feelings may just appear with no identifiable cause.

Why does this happen?

Usually, stress and/or anxiety are brought on by internal and external factors in a mother’s life. These factors do not go away unless they are addressed. Most of the time they cannot be avoided. Life doesn’t stop because mom is a bit overwhelmed. We cannot avoid some of the factors that contribute to our
stress, i.e., work, children, home, etc.

A helpful tip:

We should not fall prey to these feelings of helplessness. We need to confront them head on. For those stressful times during the day, a plan should be implemented. This is a key element that can be followed by mothers and the children at these times.

An organized approach to stress provides consistency and continuity. You know what to expect if you follow the plan. It may not totally remove the anxiety and stress from life, but it will certainly diminish the feelings because a structured plan puts you in control.

So what is the moral of the story?

Having a plan – the coping skills – to manage stressful, anxious times will ease the burden. By using this organized approach, you’ll notice a difference in the amount of stress in your life and how you cope with the feelings. It isn’t always easy, but the more you put these practices in place, the more natural they become.

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(as is common with bloggers,) as full credit/attribution is given to Empty Your Cup.com/ Stress Relief Blog.com and Change Perspective.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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MOTHER’S DAY: Thanks, Mom! A Day of Remembrance for celebrating the beginning of life. So what is Mother’s day? What does it mean to you?

It’s a very special day on which we honor mothers everywhere, from grandmothers and aunts, to sisters and friends. It’s a day when we contemplate all of the many things that our mothers have done for us.

The earliest Mother’s Day celebrations can be traced back to the spring celebrations of ancient Greece, held to honor Rhea, the Mother of the Gods.

Another theory claims this day emerged from the custom of mother worship in ancient Greece. During the 1600’s, England celebrated a day called “Mothering Sunday.” Celebrated on the 4th Sunday of Lent, Mothering Sunday honored the mothers of England. In the UK today, people celebrate motherhood and thanks mothers just for being “moms.”

In the United States, Mother’s Day was adopted from England by social activist Julia Ward Howe after the American Civil War. Ms. Howe intended the day to be a call to unite women against war. She wrote the Mother’s Day
Proclamation.

People in different countries celebrate Mother’s Day at different times of the year because the celebration has so many different origins. So, what does Mother’s Day mean to a mom, then? To moms everywhere, Mother’s Day is a day to reflect upon all of the joys that her children and family have brought into her life.

It is a day when moms relax and let others take over, something that may be difficult for some moms to do. On this special day of the year, we honor our mothers and what they’ve done for us. Mother’s Day is also a
popular day for the family to dine out, relax and connect once again.

In this fast-forward world, we never seem to have the time to truly connect with loved ones. This is one of those opportunities. Mother’s Day is a day when mom chooses her activities. She may select a nice dinner, a family trip or simply choose to work in her garden – the place that brings her inner peace.

On Mother’s Day, we all put mom’s needs first. Moms do so much for us that it’s sometimes hard to acknowledge this in a single day. They are the ones who brought us into this world, and the ones who watch over us, even today when we have children of our own.

Once you’re a mother, you’re always a mother. Those needs to nurture and protect don’t go away simply because you’ve grown older. Mothers seem to know when we need them, whether to talk, or cry, or share an accomplishment. It’s a sixth sense that moms are born with.

A mom never stops worrying about her child. When a child is born, a transformation takes place. The new mother will never be the same.

There is no one else like her. How do you say thank you for all of that? I believe being a mom is the greatest gift in the world.

Children bring the greatest joy and satisfaction into our lives. It is immeasurable. Mother’s Day continues to be celebrated all around the world.

That’s why.

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Relief Blog.com and Change Perspective.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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What would cause an 89 year old great grand mother to have guilty feelings?

Let me explain.

Mary celebrated her 89th birthday and enjoys profound stress relief. Although Mary was having fun she had a concern. I met Mary about a year ago at a coffee shop.

I stopped at the local coffee shop to get a hot chocolate before visiting my Mom. My Mom is in a nursing home. Mary and I developed a relationship.

What is fascinating about our relationship is that I do not know when I will meet Mary at the coffee shop. I do not have a specific day to visit my Mom. Mary does not go the coffee shop each day.

On her 89th birthday the owners of the donut shop gave Mary 6 red roses. Also a cake with one candle and the staff sang her happy birthday. Mary also received other unexpected gifts.

Mary was concerned because she wondered if she was given this attention out of pity. With some facilitation on my part Mary changed her perspective. She told me that she now understands that she had given all her life but never really wanted to receive.

She also confessed that she did not think that she deserved to receive. This change in her thinking now allows Mary to receive without feeling guilty.

So what is the moral of the story?

You may be OK with giving which is an admirable quality however it is also important for you to receive without feeling guilty. You need to maintain a balance in your life of giving and receiving.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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You can learn how to stay focused and stop being mean, stingy and cheap to get attention.Mary wanted to experience stress relief in her relationships but all she seemed to be attracting were partners who were mean, stingy and cheap. So Mary requested my assistance to help her solve her problem.

Let me explain

Mary had lots of shoes and she was always well dressed. She was so well dressed that every strand of her hair appeared to be always in place. Mary always got compliments about the way she dressed and her shoes accentuated her wonderful presence.

Mary could find the best deals for the most expensive shoes and she knew where and when to buy her shoes.Mary was very successful at acquiring a stable of shoes over the years. Some of her friends claim that she reminded them of Imelda Marcos. Now with this beautiful collection of shoes you would think that this would make Mary happy.

Unhappy with attachments

Mary was unhappy because she got attached to her shoes. Although her shoes provided her with all the attention she so desperately needed. With some facilitation Mary discovered that she married in order to get attention.

Marriage, shoes and a relationship

So when she got married she surrendered herself. Now after marriage she has her shoes and a relationship. Mary realized that her shoes and her attitude towards purchasing her shoes were all related.

When she purchased her shoes, Mary admitted that she had a mean, stingy and cheap attitude. She stayed focused on spending as little money as possible to buy shoes in order to get attention. Therefore she acquired fabulous shoes with very little money. Through her success and attachment to shoes Mary had became consumed by being mean, stingy and cheap in order to get attention.

Bought shoes at retail

Consequently, her friends and her partner were attracted (the law of attraction) to her like a magnet of mean, stingy and cheapness. After Mary discover the root of her problem, for the first time in her life went to the store, ask the sales person for help and bought a pair of shoes at retail in less than 5 minutes.

So what is the moral of the story?

Seeking attention in life can cause you to lose focus. When you lose focus because of external desires, you may also lose your sense of self. This feeling of lost of self can create shocking helplessness because you may try to find yourself by not listening, and ignoring all the subtle messages that are presented to you daily to help you understand your challenge.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Moms can enjoy relaxation by enabling. This is a myth which will be discussed through
Mary’s experiences.

Let me explain.

Mary wanted to experience stress relief but whatever she did seem to take her further away from experiencing relaxation. Mary came to see me with the dilemma of finding and keeping stress relief.

I needed to understand what Mary was doing so exquisitely made her avoid a state of relaxation. Mary explained that she was driven by the thought “I have to help other people”.

Mary had been practicing Meditation and would become relaxed and enjoy stress relief. However, if anyone called with a problem she would automatically switch from her relaxed stress relief state to the state of “I have to help other people”. What this means is that Mary took on the person’s problem and quickly provided a solution.

Mary the problem solver

Mary became proud of her reputation of helping other people experience relaxation. What Mary did not realize was that she was actually having her friends and families become dependent upon her for her problem solving skills. Every time, her husband, children or friends had a problem they would call Mary.

The problem solvers aha! Moment

Through my facilitation Mary had an epiphany. Mary discovered that although she enjoyed
stress relief by “helping other people”, she was exhausted at the end of the day. Mary’s aha! Moment came when she noticed the feeling of not enabling her friends and family.

Allowing them to make mistakes and learn from their experiences (she no longer had the
feeling “I have to help other people”). She had unconsciously set herself up as the person or authority for helping other people solve problems. This service of providing problem solving also provided Mary with stress relief.

Mary now understands the old saying “physician, heal thyself”. You cannot help some one
until you first learn to help yourself.

So what is the moral of the story?

You may have good intentions to help people. A good intention does not mean enabling people by solving their problems so that you can enjoy stress relief. People only learn from their mistakes and feedback they receive.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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