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Do you think that stress relief and weight loss comes from helping others?

Let me explain.

Mary had been pulling out her hair in her fight with stress relief and weight loss for many years. Mary’s challenge relating to weight loss was that she had enrolled in many weigh loss programs but always gave up in frustration. Her frustration had reached a boiling point and she asked for my help.

Mary love helping other people and she experienced profound stress relief from the satisfaction she derived from seeing other people get what they wanted base in part on her advice. So Mary was always looking for people to help. Helping people made her day.

Helping people to Mary was amazingly effortless, like taking candy from a baby. The flip side to the story was that Mary thought that by helping others she had a right to demand that they in turn help her when she needed help. You guess it no one paid Mary any attention.

After many disappointments, arguments and raising her blood pressure, Mary decided that there had to be another solution because she felt abandoned and did not cope well when she needed help and no one pitched in to help her out.

In working with Mary, she realized that losing weight to her was “hard work.” After her perception of “hard work” was shifted through my facilitation, she now admits that she had made her life extremely difficult and stressful by having fun helping people and forsaken herself (seeing doing things for herself as hard work).

So what is the moral of the story?

Sometimes consciously or unconsciously you can set an outcome to help others (by giving advice) and you may experience great joy from this experience. However, you may not for many reasons have an outcome in life for yourself either in a specific aspect of your life or in your entire life because you never thought it necessary.

Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Circuit Breaker with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach.
You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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You can let go of control and lose weight loss if you stay focused on what you want. Mary wanted to experience stress relief by reducing her weight but she always seem to put on more weight or maintain her overweight. She asked me to help her solve her weight problem.

Let me explain

Mary was holding onto to everything in her life. “Holding on” for Mary meant that she wanted to be in charge of everything. She wanted to protect her children so that they did not make mistakes.

She wanted to tell her husband how to live his life. Even at work when the window cleaners came to clean the windows she would ran after them if she felt they missed a spot.

Nobody was doing anything the way she wanted it done. Apparently, Mary’s way was the only way or so she thought. I explained to Mary that she could not continue holding onto to everything.

Mary through my facilitation finally admitted that she knew what I was saying all along. However her logical mind kept on getting in the way. Her insights and present understanding now allows her to see her daily problem, issues and stresses from a different perspective.

Mary is also aware of the fact that not only has she been taking on the weight of the world but she has also been carrying (wearing) the weight of the world on her body. This is one of the reasons for her being overweight and unable to lose weight.

So what is the moral f the story?

Sometimes you are to close to the forest to see the trees. When you view the feelings of your challenges from a different perspective like seeing the trees within you, then you have the power to make the appropriate changes within.

You may also realize or not that most things on the outside are out of your control.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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Mary was struggling with stress relief and weight loss problem for a long time.

Let me explain