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You can get less stress and find more time for you and your family when you put
yourself first.

Let me explain

Mary was searching desperately to find more time to get less stress
but all she could see was more and more stress. So I asked Mary what she
did during the week to find this elusive stress relief.

Here are her answers:

I merely fed the answers back to Mary, to give her a different perspective on stress relief.

1. Visited a friend in the hospital instead of going to her regular weekly meditation class.

2. Bought a membership to a health club to make other people happy.

3. When she receives genuine compliments she has difficulty accepting them.

4. Not listening to her children.

5. Not listening to her partner.

6. Not allowing her children to grow up and get some bruises (always wanting to protect them).

7. Giving her opinion when it was not solicited.

In every one of the above situations Mary could not find more time to enjoy less stress because she was busy pleasing others. Mary could not believe what she saw on paper (I actually wrote out my interpretation of her responses to which Mary agreed.)

You need to please others

You have probably heard that you need to do things to please yourself. However this concept has the stigma attached, that to please yourself is selfish.

Let’s examine this misconception for a moment. In Mary’s case I am going to use the first thing she said she did to find stress relief.

1. Visited a friend in the hospital instead of going to her regular weekly meditation class.

Now Mary could have gone to the hospital another day and visited her friend. I have checked with Mary a week later and her friend is still alive and making progress. However when Mary left the hospital she felt drained. Mary goes home to her children and partner feeling tired and she has no time for them because she is dog tired.

Family all stressed out

Now it makes her partner and her children wonder when she is going to find more time to spend with them (her family). In order not to get attached to the stigma of being selfish, Mary followed her understanding (stigma of being selfish) and went to the hospital.

So what are her consequences?

Mary came home drained instead of enjoying less stress. If she had attended her meditation class she would be able to find more time to spend with her family.

Mary had no time for her family.

Mary has no time for herself.

Mary now understands the havoc she has been creating in attempting to find more time to experience less stress in her life.

So what is the moral of the story?

You first need to move beyond the stigma that to please ourselves first is selfish. When you accept yourself first then it will be easier for you to find more time to enjoy less stress.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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