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Moms can enjoy relaxation by enabling. This is a myth which will be discussed through
Mary’s experiences.

Let me explain.

Mary wanted to experience stress relief but whatever she did seem to take her further away from experiencing relaxation. Mary came to see me with the dilemma of finding and keeping stress relief.

I needed to understand what Mary was doing so exquisitely made her avoid a state of relaxation. Mary explained that she was driven by the thought “I have to help other people”.

Mary had been practicing Meditation and would become relaxed and enjoy stress relief. However, if anyone called with a problem she would automatically switch from her relaxed stress relief state to the state of “I have to help other people”. What this means is that Mary took on the person’s problem and quickly provided a solution.

Mary the problem solver

Mary became proud of her reputation of helping other people experience relaxation. What Mary did not realize was that she was actually having her friends and families become dependent upon her for her problem solving skills. Every time, her husband, children or friends had a problem they would call Mary.

The problem solvers aha! Moment

Through my facilitation Mary had an epiphany. Mary discovered that although she enjoyed
stress relief by “helping other people”, she was exhausted at the end of the day. Mary’s aha! Moment came when she noticed the feeling of not enabling her friends and family.

Allowing them to make mistakes and learn from their experiences (she no longer had the
feeling “I have to help other people”). She had unconsciously set herself up as the person or authority for helping other people solve problems. This service of providing problem solving also provided Mary with stress relief.

Mary now understands the old saying “physician, heal thyself”. You cannot help some one
until you first learn to help yourself.

So what is the moral of the story?

You may have good intentions to help people. A good intention does not mean enabling people by solving their problems so that you can enjoy stress relief. People only learn from their mistakes and feedback they receive.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach. You can reach Cecil at cecil.mcintosh@gmail.com

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