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Wayne: Stress creates health problems. That is so true. Isn’t it, Cecil?

The sad thing about looking after everybody else is that you know what everybody wants specifically. You attempt to satisfy them.

For example, if you’re a wife, you need to cook four to five different meals to satisfy the family or do things four or five different ways.

When doing that, you seldom do things for yourself.

Whatever they ask you to do, you do it. You don’t do it for yourself. You’re too busy, “I don’t have time to do what I want for myself. I should do it for others.”

I find that a lot of parents do everything for their children. If you don’t believe what I’m saying, ask that child to take out the garbage and see what they say to you.

The child will say, “Take out the garbage?”

What’s frustrating is you say, “I’ve done everything for this child. I’ve done everything for this person. I ask them to do one simple thing for me and they ignore me.”

We become suckers when we do everything for everybody else. Everybody knows, “He’ll do it,” or “She’ll do it. I won’t worry about it. They’ll take care of everything.”

The person who does it gets a lot of pleasure from being noticed. They’re noticed for doing things for other people. What happens as a consequence is that particular person forgets to do things for themselves.

They get this satisfaction and adulation from other people. For them to do things for themselves is an issue.

For example, one of my clients went to the hair dresser and had her hair tinted. She went back home and nobody noticed that she had her hair done. She was mad. “Mad” is mildly put.

She said, “Cecil, nobody noticed me.”
I said, “What do you mean, ‘noticed you’?”
She said, “I had my hair done.
I said, “So? Who did you get your hair done for?”
She said, “I did it so others would complement me.”
I said, “You can’t get your hair done for others.
You have to get your hair done for you.
Who cares what other people think?”

Unfortunately, this society is a lot about what people think about you. I totally disagree with it, but that’s the way we think we have to behave.

The interesting thing about being healthy is the fantastic energy and exuberance you have. The challenge is, without proper instruction you can waste this priceless asset leaving you feeling disappointed, frustrated and overpowered with nothing to show for your effort.

I hope you now understand how and why you satisfy others rather than self. Through these points, you can change your perspective and have more energy and more fun enjoying life. And this would definitely amaze you!

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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