Stress and money over paying billsWayne: Your partner and money stress you out.
Cecil, it has nothing to do with your partner and money, does it?
Cecil: No, it doesn’t. The issue is that money is a ticklish situation of contact.
When you are separate and single, you have your money. You have your own habits. When you enter a relationship, there is a pooling of resources because there are responsibilities that have to be met.

Unfortunately, there is very little communication about who is supposed to do what and what date it’s supposed be done. No one says, “Hon, we’re supposed do this,” or “Were these things done?”

Nobody checks on the other person to make sure that they’re done. What happens when a problem comes up is you assume it was paid. You get a phone call about it. You say, “My wife paid it.” No.

The issue is a lack of communication. We’re not talking, especially about money.

Sometimes one party is making more money than the other. I’ve been told that making more money makes the other person feel smaller.

In a relationship, you need to be able to discuss it. “These are the facts. This needs to be done. That needs to be done.”

Today, one party may make more money than the other. Tomorrow, your partner might be laid off or you might be laid off.

It goes both ways. In relationships, things fluctuate.

Wayne: Why does that even matter?

Cecil: It matters because there is a lack of communication. That is what the whole issue is.

I had somebody phone me. She said, “Cecil, I’m dating this person and he wants to get married.”

I said, “What’s the problem?”

She said, “I haven’t finished my university and this person has finished.

This person says its okay.”

I said, “What the problem?”

She said, “I want to finish.”

I said, “You will get married.

If the person can say that to you right now, then that person understands. He might be making money today. You will go to university. Someday, you’ll make money and maybe he won’t. It doesn’t matter.”

No matter how long you have been in a relationship, chances are you are missing this key step to stress and money. The good news: So start to have better communication as I outlined above to solve your problem and insure your healthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at You can reach Cecil at


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