Stress Relief and Negative thoughts may result in more stress.

Let me explain.

Mary was having difficulty communicating with her partner. One day Mary’s partner accused her of being very negative and she burst into a rage of uncontrollable anger for over a week. After being upset for a week, Mary asked me to assist her with her challenge.

In exploring the root cause of the problem, Mary discovered that she was in fact negative, she used the word ‘can’t’ and “have to” very often.

What problem can you create by using the word can’t?

Her partner was a business man who sought Mary’s advice on business matters. Mary’s advice was usually very negative. This caused her partner to be disturbed. He was confused because the word ‘can’t’ never exist in his belief system.

You see, Mary only understood making money from a salaried job. To be an entrepreneur to her was too risky. Her perception of self employed was too many long hours for very little money.

What lessons did Mary learn from this experience? Mary discovered three lessons.

1. Mary acknowledged she was not aware of her belief system and how it affected her partner.

2. Mary also admitted that her thoughts were all over the place. She had difficulty focusing and sleeping at night.

3. Mary now realized that she needs to find new tools or perspective on staying focused and sleeping at night because of her negative thoughts.

So what is the moral of the story?

Blowing up into burst of anger on a regular basis is not very healthy and it will cost you when you calm down. 1f you want to stay focused more often then you need to change you behavior.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and life Coach. You can reach Cecil at

Want to learn how to stay focused so that you sleep better at night? Or ** IS YOUR LIFE TOO BUSY … TOO MUCH STRESS? ** Do you want to find more time to enjoy stress relief? – Split Second Stress Relief

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