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In my over 14 years of facilitating entrepreneurs and solopreneurs I am amazed at how many of them spend time helping others hoping somehow that they would find inner peace and happiness.

Wayne: Stress causes you to hate yourself.

Cecil: It does. I can use myself as an example. I am originally from Barbados. When I was much younger, my mom told me not to go outside and play. I decided to play in the house.

We were playing in the house and I was holding on to the rafters in the house. I fell and hit my lip on the bottom of the bed and it split my lip. I had to go to the hospital five days that week and they looked after me.

I had this whole myth that my lips were large. I had these big lips. My lips weren’t large. I just had this whole concept because of the experience I had. I went through life with this concept that my lips were large.

I was in sales and I was in the public. I was doing all these things and I had this idea in the back of my head that my lips were large. I didn’t hate myself, I hated my lips, but I blamed myself.

That created havoc in my life.

What’s fascinating is if you think about it, there is a whole industry that does facials. They do all kinds of body enhancements.

Let me go back to the situation with my lips. Where I solved mine was, at some point in time, I had a girlfriend who kissed my lips.

When she kissed my lips, I realized that my lips were beautiful. That’s how I learned my lesson. That was important for me.

Simply follow the story above to determine how you can feel like yourself without hating yourself. Now here’s my challenge to you: Think of three ways in which you can feel like yourself naturally?

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Television has been telling us how we need to look in order to be successful. And you may think your life can change overnight when you make these cosmetic changes. Unfortunately, this is struggle to achieve this dream is a waste of time and money.

The lady on my left, the shorter lady, had large breasts and she was saying, “Boy, these large breasts are so uncomfortable in the summer when it gets hot. I wish they weren’t so large.”

On the other side, the lady was saying, “My breasts are so small. Boy, I would like larger breasts.” I couldn’t believe it. I was in the middle of this thing, left ear and right ear. It was like a song.

I have other clients who have marks on their faces. Our society says, “You can fix anything. You can enlarge it or you can make it smaller.”

We seem to get caught up in this whole idea that we have to look the way somebody decides we’re supposed to look. Whether it’s TV or the media, I don’t know who it is, but somebody made this decision.

Whoever made this decision is very powerful because it’s a big industry out there.

Wayne: How do we change that? How do we change our thoughts about ourselves?

Cecil: You first have to accept that whatever you have is given to you for a reason. If you can accept that, then you don’t have a problem.

I’m also bowlegged.

I was in Barbados at some point in time. I had just gotten off the plane and it was dark. I was standing in the middle of the street. A friend of mine called and said, “Macky, what are you doing in Barbados?” They call me Macky in Barbados.

I said, “How do you know that I’m in Barbados? I just got off the plane.” He said, “You have bowlegs. I know your bowlegs.” You see, I used to be a runner in Barbados and I was pretty successful at it, so they knew my legs.

A lot of times the things that we think are negative, people use to remember us or mark us. They’re beautiful.

I have been teaching my students that whatever you have is fine. I have two ladies now who have marks on their face and they want to do something about it. I had two ladies who came to me and they had breast enhancements.

After working with me for a year, they had to ask themselves, “Why did we waste our money?” I said, “Don’t look at me. I’m here to teach you.” They said, “We wasted our money to get this done.” I said, “Yes, but you weren’t working with me at the time, so forget about it. It’s a lesson learned.”

It hurts my heart to see good intention entrepreneurs disappointed with acceptance of self. So i hope you will take the priceless short cuts you discovered in the last few minutes to avoid this trap. And to realize the acceptance of self is what makes you and your service unique. It is possible and only a few short steps away.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and  overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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