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One of the major challenges for entrepreneurs and solopreneurs is an effective system for relaxation and stress relief management.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and have fun. However, they are several know ways that not only can save you lots of money but make your dream of health wealth and happiness a reality.

And I am about to address this issue by revealing the 5 keys to relaxation and stress relief management you didn’t know about imbalance.

Wayne: Cecil, I would imagine everybody has been so far out of balance that they wouldn’t know it if they were in balance. What are they going to feel?

Cecil: When you’re in balance, here’s what happens. People who want to learn meditation go study meditation and learn relaxation.

#1: When you’re in balance, you are the meditation. You are the relaxation. It’s like a magnet. Everything comes to you.

#2: I have a client right now and this is phenomenal. He’s out there building a home and he says, “Things just happen when I need them too. I’m not looking for anybody. Everybody comes to me.”

#3: That energy shifts and people come to you. They want to give you something. They want to help you. That’s when you know you’re in balance.

#4: Imbalance is the opposite. You’re fighting, you’re screaming and nobody wants to talk to you.

#5: Balance is when everything just flows along. If there’s a hiccup, you acknowledge the hiccup and observe. That, too, will go by and then you’ll be back in balance again.

I’m not saying that because you’re in balance, there won’t be any hiccups. There will be hiccups, but as a result, everything comes to you.

Now that you understand the keys to relaxation and stress relief management which can help you create balance in your life you can consider accepting your feelings to ensure a life of health and happiness.

What is so exciting about these new perspectives, is that they can accelerate the journey on your road of relationship success, or revive a flagging effort you may have abandoned, and inject you with new hope and energy.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to clear your head, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Most successful entrepreneurs and solopreneurs would like to have a stress management plan for dealing with their feelings.

Here’s the myth: Stress creates an imbalance.

Cecil: In life, whatever you focus on is what you’re going to get. If I use myself as an example, I focused on work and making money.

When there is a very, very strong attachment to something, we call it focus. We call it tunnel-vision. We call it what we need to call it, which is wonderful. It does serve a purpose.

What you will discover along the way is that’s not all there is to it.

I was in a seminar one day where there were a number of millionaires doing presentations. I actually did a little survey. I like to sneak up and do surveys.

I did surveys of some very, very successful people. I found all of them did very well successfully, but some of them were so tunnel vision on success that they suppressed their feelings.

#1: What I did was offered them some relaxation techniques that would force them to get in touch with their feelings. They couldn’t do it.

#2: When we’re so tunnel vision, we forget about our feelings. We forget about how we feel, especially men. We don’t want to express our feelings.

#3: As a consequence of not expressing our feelings, we get attached to something. That attachment creates imbalance. That imbalance means that the body becomes out of balance.

#4: When the body becomes out of balance, there are health issues, heart attacks and strokes.

#5: We don’t understand that we need to have a balance in life.

#6: All these things are going to happen because we get so attached to something.

#7: Yes, the attachment brings us success, but over a period of time you’ll find that you’d better change your methods. You’d better bring all the other things into place. You can bring your family in. You need to have better communication with your partner.

#8: You need to have more fun. We’re not having enough fun because we get too serious about accumulating material assets.
That’s where the imbalance comes in. If you can incorporate fun in whatever you’re doing, then that’s balance.

#9: Stress creates an imbalance. That’s a whole myth. The myth is that we need to have fun and enjoy life.

#10: Whether we’re making a lot of money or a little bit of money is irrelevant. As long as we’re having fun, we’re doing well and we have a balanced life.

No matter how long you have been in business, chances are you are not aware of the need for a stress management plan for suppressing your feelings. The good news: So pick the tip or tips you need from the ones I outlined above to solve your problem and insure your healthy and happy life style.

We appreciate you feedback. Comment below and tell what you think. Peace.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to clear your head, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Most entrepreneurs and solo preneurs that I have facilitate over the last 14 years want to have better coping skills to manage stress and sex but this goal is often neglected because they are too busy.

The whole issue here is that we’re too busy.

Life is moving very quickly. Because we are materially based and we need to accumulate more, we tend to go so quickly that when it comes to having sex or spending time with your partner, you’re all stressed out.

You want to go to sleep.

One of my clients said that for her, sex was a way to control. She felt very, very powerful.

She said, “If I don’t get what I want, then I’m going to withhold sex.” That’s one way of doing it.

Other people have mentioned that they get angry and hold grudges, or they focus on the kids. Most of all, they don’t take care of themselves.

The whole issue about enjoying sex boils down to you having a focus on what you really want.

When you understand what you really want, then you will decide what’s important for you.

Is it okay to be angry and hold grudges?

Is it okay to be busy?

You have to decide what’s important and what you want.

Any time you decide what you want, you can have it. Whether its sex or money, we have to decide what’s important in our lives and how it would affect our family.

That’s what we have to decide now to be in a healthy relationship.

When we decide what we want, then that’s what will happen. We can focus on that and we can get the appropriate help if needed.

That’s what needs to happen for us to relax. Until we learn to do that, we’re not going to relax.

One of the biggest challenges for stress and sex is to be able to slow down and enjoy work life balance. It’s important to remember that you have needs which must also be met in order to have a healthy relationship.

I hope I have helped to change your thinking. When you realize how simple and easy it is to take care of yourself as well as others on a daily basis, you will look forward with excitement to search and find more opportunities to have fun each day.

We appreciate your feedback. Comment below and tell what you think. Peace

Cecil McIntosh,guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to clear your head, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Sometimes as entrepreneurs and solopreneurs you need a rude awakening for you to discover your point of focus. If you miss the details about affects of stress on my health and my sales career get more details by going to 8 Things I Wish I Knew about the Affects Of Stress Before I Started My Sale Career.

There are several little known resources that not only can save you time and make you money but make you dream come true. And I am going to reveal 10 things you don’t about your point of focus that could save your life.

Tip #3:

I was attempting to do too many things and was all over the place.

Tip #4:

In a partnership, we need to understand adjustments have got to be made.

Tip #5:

When I admitted that there was a health issue, I decided, “Fine, if there is a health issue, how I solve the health issue?”
You solve the health issue by being focused.

Tip #6:

I ate properly and stayed 9 to 3.

I was very effective and efficient to do something else.

Tip #7:

People say, “How can you be so busy and get work done?” You can get work done if you’re focused. When you’re focused, it’s amazing how much you can accomplish.

Tip #8:

As a consequence of being aware that there was a discomfort and pain in my chest, that made me more aware of my health and helped me to understand, “This is your health. You need to look after yourself.”

Tip #9:

I was very involved in the community looking after everybody else except myself. This was a message to me saying, “Uh, uh. It’s time for you to stop.”

Tip #10:

When I stopped to pay attention to that, that’s when my whole gift of relaxation and meditation was able to come true. I realized I had a gift and wasn’t using it.

The chest pain for me was very profound because it triggered a ripple effect in regard to health that has allowed me to be where I am today and to teach what I do today.

One of the biggest obstacles that prevent entrepreneurs and solopreneurs from having a point of focus is that we are too busy chasing the latest FAD. Consequently, we are easily distracted and lose our sense of purpose.

I hope I have helped to change your thinking. When you realize how simple and easy it is to improve your relationship on a daily basis, you will look forward with excitement to search and find more opportunities to have fun each day.

We appreciate your feedback.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my over 14 years of facilitating solopreneurs and entrepreneurs their main goal is to be independently wealthy. Most people are successful in business but when it comes to their relationship it’s a totally different story.

We are agreeing that we need money for the basic necessities of living. So Money is good. The problem is we get so attached to money. We don’t want to talk about it.

Money is something that needs to circulate and needs to flow. If you hold on to it too tightly and get too attached to it, you will create a problem.

It is not that your partner and money stress you out. The whole myth here is that you do not have communication.

There are all kinds of beliefs about money and sharing, and what’s mine and what’s yours.

If you really understand what a relationship and commitment mean, it doesn’t matter who has what.

That is nobody’s business.

It doesn’t matter where it gets paid from as long as it is paid. That is the way it’s supposed to be. But because of our beliefs and ego, we want to have one up on our partner.

That creates problems.

You shouldn’t do this, but it happens.

Wayne: When we say that your partner and money stress you out, that is actually just blaming, isn’t it?

Cecil: Yes.

We need somebody to pick on and say, “This is somebody’s fault.” The reality is that in a relationship, you need to take responsibility as a couple and make sure that everything is taken care of.

Everybody has issues. Whatever issues you have internally is a whole different story. It has nothing to do with paying the bills and it has nothing to do with your partner. We blame them because of a lack of understanding. I call it ignorance.

No matter how long you have been in a relationship, chances are you are ignoring the fact that you need help to relieve stress. The good news: So pick the solution you need to pay attention to, from the ones I outlined above to solve your problem and guarantee your dream of a healthy, wealthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving  your dream of health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my many years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs they all desire to make lots of money and have an abundance of energy so that they enjoy a vibrant productive life.

The whole thing about eating the wrong foods is not about eating the wrong foods. It’s the consequences of eating the wrong foods. You get involved in that, then have all kinds of health issues. Then you have to deal with the health issues.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals. That can often balance things out, depending on to what degree you have been into this bad habit of missing meals.

Wayne: Cecil, if you eat the right meals, is that going to help with your stress level?

Cecil: If you eat properly and have three meals, it helps a lot. The body needs fuel. You can’t drive a car without putting gas in it. It’s the same thing with you as a person. In order to function, you need to have something in your system.

For example, I always suggest that people have some fruit in the morning. Have your breakfast. Have your lunch. Have your dinner.

One day, I was teaching meditation. I noticed that in the class, they were hungry. They had skipped a meal. I had to go find food for them to eat before I taught. Nobody would listen to me.

What happens if children go to school hungry? If you don’t feed the children, they can’t function. Their brain can’t function if there is no food.

I was in this class to teach. I realized they were hungry. I sense it through the energy. I said, “Look. Get something to eat. Go buy something.” Then I had a very receptive class. Nobody was listening to me when they were hungry.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals.

One of the things I have found is that if people aren’t eating properly, their attention span is very short. You learn to spot it and make sure that the people get something to eat. When they get something to eat, it’s much easier for you to facilitate them and teach them.

What is so informative about these thoughts is, it can initiate a spark back to the way of achieving greater success, or speed up a tired effort you may have deserted, and inject it with new desire and vitality.

We appreciate you feedback. Comment below and tell what you think. Peace.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Television has been telling us how we need to look in order to be successful. And you may think your life can change overnight when you make these cosmetic changes. Unfortunately, this is struggle to achieve this dream is a waste of time and money.

The lady on my left, the shorter lady, had large breasts and she was saying, “Boy, these large breasts are so uncomfortable in the summer when it gets hot. I wish they weren’t so large.”

On the other side, the lady was saying, “My breasts are so small. Boy, I would like larger breasts.” I couldn’t believe it. I was in the middle of this thing, left ear and right ear. It was like a song.

I have other clients who have marks on their faces. Our society says, “You can fix anything. You can enlarge it or you can make it smaller.”

We seem to get caught up in this whole idea that we have to look the way somebody decides we’re supposed to look. Whether it’s TV or the media, I don’t know who it is, but somebody made this decision.

Whoever made this decision is very powerful because it’s a big industry out there.

Wayne: How do we change that? How do we change our thoughts about ourselves?

Cecil: You first have to accept that whatever you have is given to you for a reason. If you can accept that, then you don’t have a problem.

I’m also bowlegged.

I was in Barbados at some point in time. I had just gotten off the plane and it was dark. I was standing in the middle of the street. A friend of mine called and said, “Macky, what are you doing in Barbados?” They call me Macky in Barbados.

I said, “How do you know that I’m in Barbados? I just got off the plane.” He said, “You have bowlegs. I know your bowlegs.” You see, I used to be a runner in Barbados and I was pretty successful at it, so they knew my legs.

A lot of times the things that we think are negative, people use to remember us or mark us. They’re beautiful.

I have been teaching my students that whatever you have is fine. I have two ladies now who have marks on their face and they want to do something about it. I had two ladies who came to me and they had breast enhancements.

After working with me for a year, they had to ask themselves, “Why did we waste our money?” I said, “Don’t look at me. I’m here to teach you.” They said, “We wasted our money to get this done.” I said, “Yes, but you weren’t working with me at the time, so forget about it. It’s a lesson learned.”

It hurts my heart to see good intention entrepreneurs disappointed with acceptance of self. So i hope you will take the priceless short cuts you discovered in the last few minutes to avoid this trap. And to realize the acceptance of self is what makes you and your service unique. It is possible and only a few short steps away.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and  overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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If you are an entrepreneur, solopreneur or a baby boomer who do not know how to slow down, one of the questions that can drive you crazy is:

Cecil: When we’re stressed out, we may blame the stress for lack of exercising. But the reality is that we need to have a purpose in life.You need to decide what you want. This is the challenge that most of us have. It doesn’t matter where you are in life. You need to know what you want. The most important thing is to accept yourself at the moment where you are.

Let’s assume you’re overweight, for example. You need to accept that. The challenge is to accept that you’re overweight. “Stress causes you to avoid exercising,” is not really the issue here.

The issue is that you haven’t accepted where you are. You have to accept, “This is where I am right now.”

Let’s assume you are going on a holiday. You phone the travel agency and say, “I want to go on holiday.” The travel agent says, “Fine. Where do you want to go?”

Let’s say you want to go to Barbados. The travel agent needs to know where you are at the moment in order to book the flight. They can’t get you there if they don’t know where you are starting from.

It’s the same thing with avoiding exercise. You need to know where you are right now. If you’re overweight, you’re overweight.

So what?

Knowing where you are makes it easy for you to take the steps that are necessary to do what you want to do.

If you go into denial and decide, “I am not overweight. There’s nothing wrong with me,” that is where the problem is. Nobody can help you because you decided there is nothing wrong with you.

So take a deep breath. This is very important: Exercising or not, is not the solution to your purpose in life. Stress does not stop you from exercising. If having a purpose in life is not easy and productive why do it at all? Simply follow the step outlined above and you will soon discover that you are on your way to applying purpose of life to your daily schedule.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Wayne: Stress creates health problems. That is so true. Isn’t it, Cecil?

The sad thing about looking after everybody else is that you know what everybody wants specifically. You attempt to satisfy them.

For example, if you’re a wife, you need to cook four to five different meals to satisfy the family or do things four or five different ways.

When doing that, you seldom do things for yourself.

Whatever they ask you to do, you do it. You don’t do it for yourself. You’re too busy, “I don’t have time to do what I want for myself. I should do it for others.”

I find that a lot of parents do everything for their children. If you don’t believe what I’m saying, ask that child to take out the garbage and see what they say to you.

The child will say, “Take out the garbage?”

What’s frustrating is you say, “I’ve done everything for this child. I’ve done everything for this person. I ask them to do one simple thing for me and they ignore me.”

We become suckers when we do everything for everybody else. Everybody knows, “He’ll do it,” or “She’ll do it. I won’t worry about it. They’ll take care of everything.”

The person who does it gets a lot of pleasure from being noticed. They’re noticed for doing things for other people. What happens as a consequence is that particular person forgets to do things for themselves.

They get this satisfaction and adulation from other people. For them to do things for themselves is an issue.

For example, one of my clients went to the hair dresser and had her hair tinted. She went back home and nobody noticed that she had her hair done. She was mad. “Mad” is mildly put.

She said, “Cecil, nobody noticed me.”
I said, “What do you mean, ‘noticed you’?”
She said, “I had my hair done.
I said, “So? Who did you get your hair done for?”
She said, “I did it so others would complement me.”
I said, “You can’t get your hair done for others.
You have to get your hair done for you.
Who cares what other people think?”

Unfortunately, this society is a lot about what people think about you. I totally disagree with it, but that’s the way we think we have to behave.

The interesting thing about being healthy is the fantastic energy and exuberance you have. The challenge is, without proper instruction you can waste this priceless asset leaving you feeling disappointed, frustrated and overpowered with nothing to show for your effort.

I hope you now understand how and why you satisfy others rather than self. Through these points, you can change your perspective and have more energy and more fun enjoying life. And this would definitely amaze you!

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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If you are a solo professional or entrepreneur, one of the key to your success is to have good communicator Skill. One of the concerns that can drive you crazy is If somebody is stressed out, they need to step back and start listening. They need to take that on themselves.

What I’ve found from my private practice is that nothing happens and this continues and continues until somebody says, “I’m leaving the relationship,” or “I’ve had enough of this. I’m going to go.”

That’s how clients come to me. They say, “Cecil, I’ve been to therapists and I still have this problem. Nobody seems to help me.

What’s the problem?”

Then I say, “Nobody is listening to you.” I teach them how to listen, and then all of a sudden the relationship comes back together and they are fine.

The problem is that you need to hit a bump in a road or something has to happen in that relationship so somebody says, “I’m leaving,” and then they say, “We’d better get some help.”

That’s the only time both parties realize that nobody is listening, and it’s the only time people can be helped.

This will continue and it will get worse. Everything is going faster and faster, and that will continue and stress a relationship.
It doesn’t matter if it’s you and your partner, you and your boss, or you and your children. Nobody listens to anybody.

I feel sorry for the children because most parents today don’t listen to their children.

They’re too busy being busy. We have a very serious problem here and I don’t know what we’re going to do about it.

No matter how long you have been in business, chances are you are missing the key to be good communication skills. The good news: So used the information I outlined above to solve your problem and insure your healthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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