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In my over 14 years of facilitating solopreneurs and entrepreneurs their main goal is to be independently wealthy. Most people are successful in business but when it comes to their relationship it’s a totally different story.

We are agreeing that we need money for the basic necessities of living. So Money is good. The problem is we get so attached to money. We don’t want to talk about it.

Money is something that needs to circulate and needs to flow. If you hold on to it too tightly and get too attached to it, you will create a problem.

It is not that your partner and money stress you out. The whole myth here is that you do not have communication.

There are all kinds of beliefs about money and sharing, and what’s mine and what’s yours.

If you really understand what a relationship and commitment mean, it doesn’t matter who has what.

That is nobody’s business.

It doesn’t matter where it gets paid from as long as it is paid. That is the way it’s supposed to be. But because of our beliefs and ego, we want to have one up on our partner.

That creates problems.

You shouldn’t do this, but it happens.

Wayne: When we say that your partner and money stress you out, that is actually just blaming, isn’t it?

Cecil: Yes.

We need somebody to pick on and say, “This is somebody’s fault.” The reality is that in a relationship, you need to take responsibility as a couple and make sure that everything is taken care of.

Everybody has issues. Whatever issues you have internally is a whole different story. It has nothing to do with paying the bills and it has nothing to do with your partner. We blame them because of a lack of understanding. I call it ignorance.

No matter how long you have been in a relationship, chances are you are ignoring the fact that you need help to relieve stress. The good news: So pick the solution you need to pay attention to, from the ones I outlined above to solve your problem and guarantee your dream of a healthy, wealthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to slow down, learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving  your dream of health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my many years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs they all desire to make lots of money and have an abundance of energy so that they enjoy a vibrant productive life.

The whole thing about eating the wrong foods is not about eating the wrong foods. It’s the consequences of eating the wrong foods. You get involved in that, then have all kinds of health issues. Then you have to deal with the health issues.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals. That can often balance things out, depending on to what degree you have been into this bad habit of missing meals.

Wayne: Cecil, if you eat the right meals, is that going to help with your stress level?

Cecil: If you eat properly and have three meals, it helps a lot. The body needs fuel. You can’t drive a car without putting gas in it. It’s the same thing with you as a person. In order to function, you need to have something in your system.

For example, I always suggest that people have some fruit in the morning. Have your breakfast. Have your lunch. Have your dinner.

One day, I was teaching meditation. I noticed that in the class, they were hungry. They had skipped a meal. I had to go find food for them to eat before I taught. Nobody would listen to me.

What happens if children go to school hungry? If you don’t feed the children, they can’t function. Their brain can’t function if there is no food.

I was in this class to teach. I realized they were hungry. I sense it through the energy. I said, “Look. Get something to eat. Go buy something.” Then I had a very receptive class. Nobody was listening to me when they were hungry.

A lot of times, it’s simply a matter of having proper meals.

One of the things I have found is that if people aren’t eating properly, their attention span is very short. You learn to spot it and make sure that the people get something to eat. When they get something to eat, it’s much easier for you to facilitate them and teach them.

What is so informative about these thoughts is, it can initiate a spark back to the way of achieving greater success, or speed up a tired effort you may have deserted, and inject it with new desire and vitality.

We appreciate you feedback. Comment below and tell what you think. Peace.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Television has been telling us how we need to look in order to be successful. And you may think your life can change overnight when you make these cosmetic changes. Unfortunately, this is struggle to achieve this dream is a waste of time and money.

The lady on my left, the shorter lady, had large breasts and she was saying, “Boy, these large breasts are so uncomfortable in the summer when it gets hot. I wish they weren’t so large.”

On the other side, the lady was saying, “My breasts are so small. Boy, I would like larger breasts.” I couldn’t believe it. I was in the middle of this thing, left ear and right ear. It was like a song.

I have other clients who have marks on their faces. Our society says, “You can fix anything. You can enlarge it or you can make it smaller.”

We seem to get caught up in this whole idea that we have to look the way somebody decides we’re supposed to look. Whether it’s TV or the media, I don’t know who it is, but somebody made this decision.

Whoever made this decision is very powerful because it’s a big industry out there.

Wayne: How do we change that? How do we change our thoughts about ourselves?

Cecil: You first have to accept that whatever you have is given to you for a reason. If you can accept that, then you don’t have a problem.

I’m also bowlegged.

I was in Barbados at some point in time. I had just gotten off the plane and it was dark. I was standing in the middle of the street. A friend of mine called and said, “Macky, what are you doing in Barbados?” They call me Macky in Barbados.

I said, “How do you know that I’m in Barbados? I just got off the plane.” He said, “You have bowlegs. I know your bowlegs.” You see, I used to be a runner in Barbados and I was pretty successful at it, so they knew my legs.

A lot of times the things that we think are negative, people use to remember us or mark us. They’re beautiful.

I have been teaching my students that whatever you have is fine. I have two ladies now who have marks on their face and they want to do something about it. I had two ladies who came to me and they had breast enhancements.

After working with me for a year, they had to ask themselves, “Why did we waste our money?” I said, “Don’t look at me. I’m here to teach you.” They said, “We wasted our money to get this done.” I said, “Yes, but you weren’t working with me at the time, so forget about it. It’s a lesson learned.”

It hurts my heart to see good intention entrepreneurs disappointed with acceptance of self. So i hope you will take the priceless short cuts you discovered in the last few minutes to avoid this trap. And to realize the acceptance of self is what makes you and your service unique. It is possible and only a few short steps away.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and  overcome chronic symptoms so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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If you are an entrepreneur, solopreneur or a baby boomer who do not know how to slow down, one of the questions that can drive you crazy is:

Cecil: When we’re stressed out, we may blame the stress for lack of exercising. But the reality is that we need to have a purpose in life.You need to decide what you want. This is the challenge that most of us have. It doesn’t matter where you are in life. You need to know what you want. The most important thing is to accept yourself at the moment where you are.

Let’s assume you’re overweight, for example. You need to accept that. The challenge is to accept that you’re overweight. “Stress causes you to avoid exercising,” is not really the issue here.

The issue is that you haven’t accepted where you are. You have to accept, “This is where I am right now.”

Let’s assume you are going on a holiday. You phone the travel agency and say, “I want to go on holiday.” The travel agent says, “Fine. Where do you want to go?”

Let’s say you want to go to Barbados. The travel agent needs to know where you are at the moment in order to book the flight. They can’t get you there if they don’t know where you are starting from.

It’s the same thing with avoiding exercise. You need to know where you are right now. If you’re overweight, you’re overweight.

So what?

Knowing where you are makes it easy for you to take the steps that are necessary to do what you want to do.

If you go into denial and decide, “I am not overweight. There’s nothing wrong with me,” that is where the problem is. Nobody can help you because you decided there is nothing wrong with you.

So take a deep breath. This is very important: Exercising or not, is not the solution to your purpose in life. Stress does not stop you from exercising. If having a purpose in life is not easy and productive why do it at all? Simply follow the step outlined above and you will soon discover that you are on your way to applying purpose of life to your daily schedule.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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Wayne: Stress creates health problems. That is so true. Isn’t it, Cecil?

The sad thing about looking after everybody else is that you know what everybody wants specifically. You attempt to satisfy them.

For example, if you’re a wife, you need to cook four to five different meals to satisfy the family or do things four or five different ways.

When doing that, you seldom do things for yourself.

Whatever they ask you to do, you do it. You don’t do it for yourself. You’re too busy, “I don’t have time to do what I want for myself. I should do it for others.”

I find that a lot of parents do everything for their children. If you don’t believe what I’m saying, ask that child to take out the garbage and see what they say to you.

The child will say, “Take out the garbage?”

What’s frustrating is you say, “I’ve done everything for this child. I’ve done everything for this person. I ask them to do one simple thing for me and they ignore me.”

We become suckers when we do everything for everybody else. Everybody knows, “He’ll do it,” or “She’ll do it. I won’t worry about it. They’ll take care of everything.”

The person who does it gets a lot of pleasure from being noticed. They’re noticed for doing things for other people. What happens as a consequence is that particular person forgets to do things for themselves.

They get this satisfaction and adulation from other people. For them to do things for themselves is an issue.

For example, one of my clients went to the hair dresser and had her hair tinted. She went back home and nobody noticed that she had her hair done. She was mad. “Mad” is mildly put.

She said, “Cecil, nobody noticed me.”
I said, “What do you mean, ‘noticed you’?”
She said, “I had my hair done.
I said, “So? Who did you get your hair done for?”
She said, “I did it so others would complement me.”
I said, “You can’t get your hair done for others.
You have to get your hair done for you.
Who cares what other people think?”

Unfortunately, this society is a lot about what people think about you. I totally disagree with it, but that’s the way we think we have to behave.

The interesting thing about being healthy is the fantastic energy and exuberance you have. The challenge is, without proper instruction you can waste this priceless asset leaving you feeling disappointed, frustrated and overpowered with nothing to show for your effort.

I hope you now understand how and why you satisfy others rather than self. Through these points, you can change your perspective and have more energy and more fun enjoying life. And this would definitely amaze you!

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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If you are a solo professional or entrepreneur, one of the key to your success is to have good communicator Skill. One of the concerns that can drive you crazy is If somebody is stressed out, they need to step back and start listening. They need to take that on themselves.

What I’ve found from my private practice is that nothing happens and this continues and continues until somebody says, “I’m leaving the relationship,” or “I’ve had enough of this. I’m going to go.”

That’s how clients come to me. They say, “Cecil, I’ve been to therapists and I still have this problem. Nobody seems to help me.

What’s the problem?”

Then I say, “Nobody is listening to you.” I teach them how to listen, and then all of a sudden the relationship comes back together and they are fine.

The problem is that you need to hit a bump in a road or something has to happen in that relationship so somebody says, “I’m leaving,” and then they say, “We’d better get some help.”

That’s the only time both parties realize that nobody is listening, and it’s the only time people can be helped.

This will continue and it will get worse. Everything is going faster and faster, and that will continue and stress a relationship.
It doesn’t matter if it’s you and your partner, you and your boss, or you and your children. Nobody listens to anybody.

I feel sorry for the children because most parents today don’t listen to their children.

They’re too busy being busy. We have a very serious problem here and I don’t know what we’re going to do about it.

No matter how long you have been in business, chances are you are missing the key to be good communication skills. The good news: So used the information I outlined above to solve your problem and insure your healthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In all my years of working with entrepreneurs, solo-preneurs and baby boomers, I have come to one very alarming conclusion – they all have a problem slowing down.

Sometimes in our eagerness to keep pushing ourselves to achieve our goals, we are forgetting that life isn’t a 100 meter dash.

Life is a marathon, with hurdles and obstacles that can be overcome and breezed through without compromising our health and lifestyle.

Once we remember this key wisdom, we are all well on our way to mastering the 3 secret weapons for relief from stress.

Key #1 – breathe. Sounds easy enough, right?

Some may even say that it’s elementary or basic. Well, if it is, then you won’t have any problems mastering it.

Scientific research shows that when you regulate your breathing correctly, the supply of fresh oxygen will help you think more clearly and focus on the task at hand.

When you are focused and clearheaded, no task is insurmountable. Whether you are sitting down or standing up, make sure that you take slow, deep breaths.

Key #2 – eat healthy. Is it an easy thing to do?

Eating healthy doesn’t always mean going on a diet.

It only means that you need to be conscious about what you eat. A balanced, healthy daily food regimen will definitely help reduce or even remove stress factors that hinder you from achieving your goals properly.

Food is the fuel from which your body takes its energy from so make sure you’re fueling up your body correctly.

Key #3: – rest. Life shouldn’t always be about working.

Think of it this way.

You may be able to work the whole day for a few days and then eventually, your body will be so stressed out from lack of rest and energy, it will break down on its own to recharge itself and you will lose out on some opportunities because you were in bed, sick.

However, if you recharge your body by resting when you should, it will continue to give you the energy you need to achieve your goals. Set aside time for relaxing.

Get in bed and just relax.

You can still achieve your goals but remain stress-free. There’s no need to sacrifice your health for the promise of wealth.

When you follow the three simple steps that have been outlined for you, relief from stress won’t be far behind. Live the lifestyle you want and enjoy it. With these tips, you definitely can.

Cecil McIntosh, guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com  You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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You keep on putting things off, saying, “It’s going to be stressful. I don’t want to deal with it.”

I teach relaxation in the hospital by their bedside. When I talk to them, they say, “Man, I never thought I would be in here. I never thought to slow down.”

The myth is if you keep on going, going, going all the time, you will avoid everything bad and you will get what you want. The myth is that’s not going to happen.

You could end up with a heart attack, stroke or all kinds of health issues because the body can only take so much.

As soon as the body has had enough and you feel tension, you start to see manifestations in the body.

Wayne: Is it hard for a lot of people to realize this until they’re actually lying in a hospital bed?

Cecil: Yes. I know this from my experience. I’m also a product of it because when I came to Canada, I got my degree from a university. I actually had forsaken everything my grandmother and the people in Barbados taught me for the almighty dollar.

Wayne: What was the difference between your teachings in Barbados and in Canada?

Cecil: Here in Canada, after I went to the university, I became consumed with the idea that you have to go after the almighty dollar. You have to make the big bucks. For me, it was work and money. Nothing else really mattered. That’s not what I was taught in Barbados.

Wayne: What were you taught there?

Cecil: I was taught that you need to live a balanced life. Money was not the be all and end all. Work was not the be all and end all. You need to have a balanced situation.

I went to two extremes. One was work and the other one was seeking the money. I did make the money. I got everything I wanted. Then I went bankrupt and I got divorced. That’s when I spun around and reverted to what my grandmother taught me.

I’m actually a product of the process. This is what I’ve experienced personally.

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In my many years of working with entrepreneurs and solopreneurs most of them are busy trying to make money so that they can become independently wealthy.

Interestingly enough, there are all kinds of signs screaming (S.O.S) at you to stop and pay attention.

Here’s the good news: There are several indicators that will not only solve most of your health problems but make you wealthy and healthy in the process. And I am about to reveal 16 of the best ones.

1. Fatigue and insomnia – a dangerous mixture that will ultimately affect your physical health.

2. Discomfort, aches and pains with no known cause, therefore no known cure. What can you do to feel better – everyday?

3. Chronic, unexplained depression or anxiety – a major contributor to heart disease and high blood pressure and kidney disease.

4. A sore jaw (from clenching teeth) – especially in the middle of the night!

5. Recurring headaches, dizziness and/or a feeling of being disconnected that doesn’t go away with O-T-C remedies – no matter how many you try!

6. Sexual problems including erectile dysfunction (ED) and loss of libido that can add even more stress to a stressful, important relationship.

7. Sudden weight gain or loss – even when you’re not counting calories. Sound familiar?

8. Indigestion, constipation and other problems within the gastro-intestinal tract despite numerous changes in diet and eating habits. These stress-induced physical problems will have an effect on your long-term physical health. Eliminate the stress, eliminate the physical symptoms altogether.

9. Anorexia, bulimia, binge eating and other eating disorders are common indicators of stress and, because these disorders can be life threatening, professional intervention may be required. Some anorexics require in-patient treatment!

10. Cold, sweaty palms and uncontrollable trembling even when there’s no perceived danger. Your stress triggers may be all around you – even in once-comfortable surroundings like your home or workplace.

11. Agoraphobia (fear of leaving the safety of your home) often leaves sufferers housebound. They are afraid to even go to the mailbox. It’s a very constricting life, one that is rarely filled with happiness.

12. Rapid loss of hair is another common stress symptom. It can affect men or women and is often confused with normal hair loss caused by the aging process. Sometimes, it’s not.

13. Inability to maintain focus on the task at hand makes everything difficult at home and on the job. Another danger? Driving while distracted. And if the kids are in the car…

14. Increased social isolation and the decline of once-solid personal relationships that are critical to good emotional health. We all need a support network. Stress and depression can undo that support network in short order.

15. Poor work performance that may lead to job loss – another stressor to add to the pile.

16. Increased alcohol consumption or use of contraband drugs to dull the senses and relieve the anxiety. These may be temporary “cures” but the underlying problems remain when the “buzz” wears off – and the cycle repeats itself each day

No matter how long you have been in business, chances are you are ignoring one or more of these 16 symptoms of stress. The good news: So pick the symptom or symptoms you need to pay attention to, from the ones I outlined above to solve your problem and guarantee your healthy, wealthy and happy life style.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. You can get the other 20 Tips of 21 no-brainer shortcuts to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com  You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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In my 14 years of working with entrepreneurs and soloprenuers, I realized that they would like to learn how to slow down and smell the roses. However, they always seem to pick ways that cost them a bundle of money.

Where can you find opportunities to stop and slow down on a regular basis? Well, your wish is my command.

Here are three terrific very low cost secrets to enjoying stress relief and really touching someone or making a wonderful connection.

And unlike what you may have been conditioned to think, these simple exercises won’t break the bank, but maybe put money IN the bank.

And more surprisingly, you can find these exercises in the line at the checkout counter.

Compliment a person:

Have you been in a hurry and are about to leave the store with a couple of items, however, when you get to the checkout counter there is a long line up?

Here is your chance to stop and take a break. Life gives us these wonderful opportunities ever so often.

Be genuine when you compliment the person in front or behind you.

This could be the first positive comment that person might have heard for the day.

Start a conversation:

You could alternatively start a conversion about the weather. The secret is to keep the conversation positive. So if the person starts to complain about the weather- you could say something like “if this line was not so long we would have never met. What do you do for a living?” Be creative, you’ll come up with something.

The customer in front of you is short 24 cents for the bill…pay it.

You’re in the line and you are talking to the person beside you only because the quick check out is slow and there is a long line.

So you have this amazing conversation going and as your friend is about to check out they are 24 cents short. Here is an opportunity for you to help out unconditionally, because chance are you’ll never meet that person again.

Think of all the positive energy and great feeling that person will have for the balance of the day.

Guess what?!

You got a chance to slow down and relieve stress.

One of the biggest obstacles that prevent entrepreneurs and solopreneurs from finding opportunities to take a break is that they are too busy.

I hope I have helped to change your thinking. When you realize how simple and easy it is to relieve your stress on a daily basis, you will look forward with excitement to search and find more opportunities to have fun each day.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to learn to relax, stress less and go with the flow so that you can quickly experience profound peace, power and work life balance. Get a jump start on your own relax and stress less system with 21 no-brainer shortcut to achieving health and happiness at http://eycfreebook.com   You can reach Cecil at http://www.cecilhelpdesk.com

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