Pain, sadness, worried, unhappy with selfIn my over 14 years of working with stressed out entrepreneurs, I am astonished at just how many of them believe that it is OK to be successful and acquire material assets but yet, be unhappy because they are not satisfied doing what they do.

Well, let me tell you: there is nothing that can be farther from the truth.

It tears my heart apart, but most people are unfortunately headed for disaster. And what’s worse, it doesn’t really have to happen.

If you would like to change this misfortune in your thinking (and I realize you do!) here are the 4 most catastrophic mistakes about being unhappy with yourself and how you can avoid them.

Mistake #1: Focus

In life you need to have a focus. Sometimes your focus is determined for you by your parents and loved ones. Whether you’re successful or not is not the point of discussion. The point is, are you happy?
Generally the answer is no, because we have been taught that we have to please others first.
In order to focus, you need to relax. As you start practicing relaxation on a regular basis, you will get more clarity.

Mistake #2: Clarity

So what is clarity?

Let’s say you have all these roads in life and you come to a fork in the road where you have to decide which way to go.
What do you do?

Please remember this: You have no one to give you advice because you are all on your own. This is where your daily relaxation practice comes in handy. You can go inside yourself and find the answer to make your decision.

Now that you understand what clarity is all about, what is the next mistake?

Mistake #3: Purpose

So what is your purpose?

Let’s take a simple example: When you go shopping for groceries, do you take a list and a pen or pencil?

Three possibilities:

1. If you don’t make a list of groceries, you are going to buy items you don’t need and you will probably forget other items that are necessary.
2. If you take a list and no pencil to mark off what you purchased, you may still forget some items although they are on the list.
3. You make your list and you mark off your purchases. You check out and you go home

Now that is focus and a lot less stress

Mistake #4: Listening

What is listening?

A good example is, when you and your partner are like two tape recorders and both of you are speaking at the same time and therefore, nobody is listening.

The challenge is that most people have a “full cup” and they want to empty that cup. It is like wanting to go to the wash room when you can’t hold it any longer.

In order to listen, you need to quite the mind and shut out the inner chatter and outer noises and focus on what you hear so you can understand and appreciate them.

What so important about this information is that it can get you going on your way to success or resurrect an old idea you might have abandoned and inject it with desire and hope.

Cecil McIntosh guides solo-preneurs and entrepreneurs worldwide to manage feeling overwhelmed and to feel happy about yourself again. Get a jump start on your own relax and stress less system with 21 no-brainer shortcut to achieving health and happiness at You can reach Cecil at

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