Working Moms and parents can stay focused and enjoy Stress Relief by Listening to their children because; children need to perceive their parents are someone who will listen to them so that they can feel relaxed. This results in stress relief for, working moms, parents and children.

Children give us hints in many ways. Some two year olds throw temper tantrums because they perceive that no one is listening. I guess working moms and parents are generally too busy and stressed out to listen.

A friend told me about a young working mom who had a young child. When the young working mom came home from work she would rush to the bathroom, but she would forget to change her son’s diaper. Consequently the young child was only expressing it’s feelings of discomfort by kicking up a fuss through actions of screaming and shouting in order to get attention (stress relief).

As young children get older they may ask questions and as working moms and parents you may hear but not answer. Children need to be acknowledged so that they have the feeling that they have been listen to. Otherwise they will continue to seek an avenue that helps them to relax and focus.

When children stay focused it is like the period at the end of a sentence. If you have a very long paragraph with no periods, then you have a long run-on sentence. This sentence makes it very difficult to relax and focus when reading and hence no stress relief.

When my children were younger I had 3 rules for listening and stress relief.

Rule # 1, is that if I did not answer their questions, they had permission to remind me that I gave them permission to ask me questions.

The problem is that some questions ask of working moms and parents are difficult to answer because we were never really trained to be parents.

Rule # 2, when ever I was asked a question by my children which I could not answer I would tell my children that I would l think about it and get back to them by a specific date. This technique gave me some breathing room and helped me to stay focused.

Rule # 3, one of my children told me to tell her “maybe” if I did not have any answer to her question. She explained that “maybe” allowed to relax and focus and gave her hope that she would get what she wanted.

Working moms and parents need to practice listening to their children so that children feel as though someone cares. It helps them “empty” their thought and feelings in a safe place rather than letting them bottling up and exploding like fire crackers.

If children feel that they are not listened too, then their behavior can become relax and focused towards getting the necessary stress relief at any cost.

You may hear what your children have said but you may be too busy doing other things for example, watching television. Although as working moms and parents you can repeat everything that they have said they (children) may have a perception that you are not listening. Remember whatever perception they have of you as a working mom or parent is correct.

This perception can easily be corrected by finding more time to stop and look your children in the eye when talking to them. Now you children will no longer feel as though you are always too busy to find more time for them.

In conclusion: Children only need to be acknowledged. When they feel that working moms and parents actually find more time to look them in the eye and listen to them, then they can relax and focus on having fun rather than creating havoc in order to get attention.

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Cecil McIntosh, The EYC™ Stress Relaxation Expert with 14 years of experience helping Entrepreneurs like you, stay focused, get more done and find more time, so that you can live in the moment. He is a published author of many audio Relaxation Programs using accelerated learning approaches and a Teacher, NLP Trainer and Coach.

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